LEARNING HOW TO FEEL
LEARNING HOW TO FEEL
I have learned that the most straightforward way to soothe an uncomfortable emotion is to go THROUGH it, like a portal🌀.
Have you ever had an emotion arise in you and you’re like, “I dont feel like dealing with this right now!” ?
I often feel like this, because im someone who feels A LOT..... But as both a sensitive/sensory Being, and as a Woman who is learning to thrive after trauma…I have lots of feelings. That’s just the way it is.
And so, I have had to learn (and am still learning) how to manage and regulate these emotions….so they do not regulate me!
I have found that when I take a moment to BE WITH the emotion, specifically the physical sensations….to allow myself to FEEL it in my body….to observe it without judgment…to watch it, like a cloud floating past me in the sky…something amazing happens…
I feel the emotion…I lean into it with openness and curiosity….As I hold space, the feeling gets stronger for a moment….and then…..it dissipates. Like a wave. It’s amazing. (It doesn't mean all my challenges or the root of the issue is completely gone, but it DOES mean I can handle with root with more balance and clarity cause my emotions are stabilized)
This is the natural ebb and flow of emotions through the body; through the nervous system.
However, many of us repress….push it down. We do not create space for this natural wave and flow of the energy. We do not create a path it to move through us.
However, when we learn to connect with our body, and to the physical sensations that our emotions invoke, we start to realize that the emotional pains or discomforts that we experience throughout life are actually manageable and within our control.
So, the next time you are met with an uncomfortable emotion, I invite you to take a few momoments and just hold space for it, without attachment (you can attach meaning and problem solve the root of the issue later, but we want to do so from an emotionally balanced place, not a charged place).
Once you master this process, you will have an extremely valuable tool to utilize for Life.